by Ana Von Schwedler
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It is 2 years now since Uta’s death. 2 years, while many things changed for me.
I already wrote about many things in my past memories about Uta, at her first year death date and for her past birthdays.
Nevertheless I still have my constant memories. There is not one day, when I don’t think about my sister (and sisters) and our situation. There is not one day that I don’t think about what the future will bring to my own children and to Uta’s children, who do not have any support by any parent any more.
It is more than fantastic, that we do not have to fear for Liam and Ilona’s well being any more when at the beginning of August the legal guardianship over them was given by the court to John and Amy Oglesby. They already welcomed the children after the arrest of their father on April, 25th 2013 warmly into their big family. Since that time they spent all their time in this family, who calls itself : “the tribe“.
In July we invited all four Wall children to come to Germany, they were with me in Heidelberg, at grandmother Holle’s house in Oberhausen, we visited friends in Krefeld and in Bochum. They spent 3 days to discover Rome. After that they started a cruise through the Aegean (Santorini, Istanbul, Ephesus, Mykonos, Athens and Naples), together with their aunts Sophie and Almut, her husband Michael and Aidan and Tamsin.
After that they spent a few days in Oberhausen together. I organized a big family meeting , which was attended by nearly all members of my motherly Groß family. We were 23 people, but Sophie only arrived after my uncle and his girlfriend already left.
Cousins: Johanna, Sophie, Almut and Esther
Holle with her grandchildren (without Fiona) and great nieces in Sophie’s new car.
playing garden chess
Family picture without Berthold and Nicole
missing: Guido, Paula with family, Peter and Fiona
Before the flights back to Salt Lake City and Sydney, we were in Paris for 2 days. We had to queue in the summer heat to visit the tower of Notre-Dame and the Eiffel Tower, we visited the Dôme des Invalides (Napoleon’s gravesite), the Louvre, the Champs-Élysées and the Arc de Triomphe.
We had a great and fruitful time together.
It is a pity that one person was missing at all times: Uta. She was the one to come to Germany every year to visit her family and friends. She was the one know who showed me only now after her death how important it is to have a family who supports you in every situation. Uta, who in her lifetime made so many friendships, that many of these friends worked hard to bring justice to her death. Friends who are still eager to not forget Uta with all her own agendas and ideas of life.
They are realizing a bicycle rack donation, in honor of Uta, to the Steiner Sports Complex. They purchased 24 inverted U racks of four different colors, a more artsy centerpiece bike rack called the ‘mad biker’, a bench, and a plaque that will be securely embedded in concrete near the ‘mad biker’.
I am still stunned that the arrest of John Wall was initiated by lawyers who were payed by the family, and who supported the local police with information. Maybe there will be an „Uta Law“ in Utah next year. That should protect children from living with legal guardians who are suspect of a criminal offense.
The children living with their father for nearly a year, worried us so much, that we had no problem with spending more money on trying to protect them from the control and the threat by their sick father.
Now they can be sure of the assurance that they live in a very big family in Salt Lake City, in Germany and in Australia.
I know that the trust that they have in John and Amy and their family will never be disapointing. Life goes on, for everyone, and I won’t say that everything will be okay soon for Uta’s children. But thinking of the last 2 years since Uta’s death on Sept. 27th 2011, I now know that in retrospective it got better and it will be going to be better in future.
Pelle, Malkie, Liam and Ilona will always have our support. We will never forget that! We all became a part of „the tribe“. I am happy that my children get along so well with their cousins that they feel a strong company to each other among the three continents.
Thank you very much to all friends and to all people, who feel with us as one big family.